On reading Rowan William's essay titled
The Body's Grace, in which he consistently quotes T. Nagel, he makes the point that humans, in order to be 'aroused', need to be perceived by someone whom you are perceiving back that is to say "identifying me with my body" requires other people, requires intercourse (in its broadest of meanings).
" sex has a related structure: it involves a desire that one's partner be aroused by the recognition of one's desire that he or she be aroused...For my body to be the cause of joy, the end of homecoming, for me, it must be there for someone else, be perceived, accepted, nurtured.
Because of this involvement with other people, Williams argues that this is precisely why people need a language for
"sexual failure, immaturity, even perversion". Solitary acts of a sexual nature are dismissed because they do not meet the criterion for a proper
"self-awareness". Thus what is he trying to say? That sex is justified because it is our ultimate aim to be self-aware? I think so. If we take it to mean that a relationship of equal status ship of perception is welcomed and encouraged, then surely homosexuality is the best form one can get, somewhat ironically. Why?
Williams writes that
"because there is an unbalance in the relation such that the desire of the other for me is irrelevant or minimal - rape, paedophilia, bestiality, they lead to no "exposed spontaneity"...."These asymmetrical" sexual practices have some claim to be called perverse in that they leave one agent in effective control of the situation, [with unequal desire reflected],".
If this is so then surely in a great many cultural settings, the socially licensed norm of heterosexual intercourse is a "perversion" as well?
I found his essay extremely interesting, and wondered if you all had the same response?
Please I invite you to discuss any counter arguements to Nagel (I'm not convinced William's actually agrees with this, even though it's in his essay ... In brackets...)
Topic open to discussion

Since this is a sort of mini essay I'll just give you a reference to this essay.
http://www.igreens.org.uk/bodys_grace.htm